Over the last year I have doubted myself more times than I can count. Especially at the beginning. I learned how to build a website from scratch. I turned my writing into a blog. I started projects that felt exciting and then convinced myself I didn’t have the skill to finish them. Every step forward came with a moment where I wondered if I was doing any of this right.
The decision I questioned the most was moving away from social media. When I first started doing this, I posted almost every day. I loved sharing information. I loved connecting. But I found myself spending more time searching through images and writing posts than working on the things I truly wanted to build. My library. My teaching. My deeper work. The things that mattered to me.
When I made the shift from content creator to mentor, I worried I had made the wrong choice. Especially when I first started filling those digital library shelves. It felt slow. It felt quiet. It felt like I had stepped away from the noise and wasn’t sure if anyone would follow me into the calm.
But I kept going. I kept writing. I kept building. I kept learning.
And somewhere along the way, I realized I was happier. I was sharing the knowledge I have and the knowledge I continue to learn. I was creating work that felt meaningful instead of work that felt constant. I was choosing depth over performance. I was choosing the path that actually belongs to me.
I still doubt myself sometimes. That part hasn’t disappeared. But now the doubt feels smaller. It feels like something I can walk through instead of something that stops me. Because I know what I’m building. I know why I’m here. And I know that stepping away from the noise gave me the space to continue to grow as a mentor.
There were days when I needed a little help steadying my voice. On some of those days I used small spoken reminders to boost my confidence. Not as a fix. Not as a ritual to force bravery. Just as a way to remind myself that confidence grows in small moments. It helped me breathe, refocus, and keep moving toward the work that mattered. I do have a similar Confidence Spell in the Library. Go try it.